Originally Posted by JL'smom
Do you let your DSC have sleep overs at your house and would you let an 18 yo DSC have sleep overs?
My husband has an older son who was almost out of college when we got married and generally stays overnight at his mom's, if he's in town. But when we got married and my husband moved into what had been my
house (better school district for the younger ones!
), I made a point of telling my step-son that while I had no wish to compete with his mom, we'll always have a bed or a pull-out sofa for him, if for any reason he wants to stay here
overnight. Growing up, I wasn't a second mother to him and this wasn't his second home, but ideally he should feel as welcome
here as if it were. It's his father's
home, now - whether his father's out of town on business or not. And he certainly has friends from college who are in town with him for the weekend, sometimes - or old high school friends he's going out with for the night - who would also need to stay over, if he slept here some night.
As far as step-kids' friends spending the night in general
, my husband also has a 10-year-old son who lives with us. Of course he has friends sleep over. It's his home. Even if he lived with his mom, he could still have sleepovers here, on weekends or in the summer.
As far as not knowing the friend, what better way to find out what kind of kids your step-son's hanging out with, than by hosting them in your home?