So, my situation is complicated and I would love some advice from anyone that has been anywhere close to this situation before.
My divorce will be final sometime in the next month or so (fingers crossed). I have a 2 year old DD, we have shared physical custody, and her dad is very involved in her life and is an excellent father. The divorce has been reasonably amicable, as these things go. We're divorcing for many reasons, but ultimately I fell in love with someone else. Not proud of it, wish I could undo much of the past year, but it is what it is.
DP and I have been more or less living together for the past several months. STBX knows that we are still together, but we really don't talk about it very much, if at all. He (STBX) is still pretty mad about everything, but we have a tentative peace between us, and are coparenting well.
So, the thing is that I just found out I am pregnant. Not planned, very surprising, but DP and I will welcome this LO with love. I wish I could be more happy about it, but am sick with worry about telling STBX. I am terrified of how he will react, how this will change our relationship, what effect this will have on our DD. It changes everything, of course.
Any advice, been there done that stories? This is hard, mamas, and I'd appreciate any words of wisdom. Thanks in advance.