Join Date: Apr 2010
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My boyfriend and I are both open minded and chill, but have different ideas about food and rules surrounding them. For example, if my son doesn't eat his lunch, he isn't allowed to have a snack in the afternoon (to prevent him from getting the idea that he can eat whenever he feels like it), and if he does eat his lunch, he can have a snack latyer on, but no less than 2 hours before dinnertime, and he isn't allowed to have sweets past about 6pm. My bf let's his daughter snack quite frequently, even if then she wont eat a "real" meal, and let's her have sweets later than I let my son. My son has to eat all of his medium sized salad, while she gets a tiny salad and doesn't always have to finish it to move on to the rest of the meal.
I don't want to isolate my son, but I also don't want to tell my sweetie how to raise his child. He only has her on week-ends, so having him change his "rules" when both kids are around isn't much of an option I think.
What would you do?
We had to comprise. I had to give up my wish for rigid rules in exchange for loose standards (make a good effort on your dinner vs. clean your small plate). He had to set some general policies (make a good effort on your dinner, or you will have to finish dinner later at some point before getting a snack, no snacks immediately following dinner - have more dinner, no short-order cooking).
~Teresa, raising DS (Jan. 02) and DD1 (Jun. 04) and DD2 (Dec. 11) with DH.