Yeah I have, still nothing. Only thing I've found is we can't serve the other, someone not party to it has to serve the other parent.
This was late last night I was looking, we decided to talk to a lawyer.
I would probably hire a process server (who is aware of the rules of the jurisdiction). They are not as expensive as you might think.
ProtoLawyer (the now-actual lawyer, this isn't legal advice, please don't take legal advice from some anonymous yahoo on the Internet) Spouse (the political geek) * Stepdaughter (the artist) * and introducing...the Baby (um, he's a baby? He likes shiny things).
I've used a process server several times and they are well worth the cost (local service was about $80.) The ones I dealt with made 3 or 4 attempts at service over the course of a week, and wrote out an affidavit when XH evaded them, which I took back to court and got an order for substituted service (this order made it so anyone who lived at his last known/parents address could be served? Then I paid them again to serve the order to XH's brother.
~Teresa, raising DS (Jan. 02) and DD1 (Jun. 04) and DD2 (Dec. 11) with DH.