Originally Posted by Strong Mama
...which is why I feel like a biatch...
No, no, no! This is difficult stuff for any
one - and you have mega pregnancy hormones, to boot! Let go of bashing yourself. You don't deserve it and it only adds negativity.
We all go through this, even in the best situations. My step-son lives with us and his mom's out of state. So most of the year, I get to do everything with him and never even have to think about her. Yet every year, we invite his mother to his birthday party and every year my stomach is in knots, for fear she'll actually come. She's only come to 2 of his sporting events, in almost 3 years. I would have loved any excuse not to go to those; not to wonder whether to force myself to talk to her, or to make myself so busy talking to other people that I just never get around to it; not to wonder if she's going to tousle my husband's hair again, or hug my mom again and gush as though they're old friends and allies. If my husband also
acted warmly toward her, it would make me feel like coming unglued. And I'm not pregnant!
But for me, as for you, at the end of the day it feels better to know you did the right thing, not the easy one.
So take your husband by the hands, look deeply and lovingly into his eyes and tell him that you cannot always control how this pregnancy makes you act, so at the party you need him to help you - and help himself - by remembering to be attentive to the right woman