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Old 10-18-2010, 05:41 PM - Thread Starter
 
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I am new to your forums and am not sure I have found the best place for me, but reading some of the posts I can relate to a lot of you. I am a SAHM to my 3 kids ages, 11,9, and 5. The two oldest are boys the youngest is 5. I have a stepson who is 13. My youngest child was born of my marriage now and my older boys are from a previous marriage.

All of my kids are healthy, well adjusted young people and I love them more than I can ever say. My stepson is quite the challenge and I am lost as to what to do with him or in regards to him at all. Don't get me wrong I love him he is my husband's child so that automatically sparked a love for him within my heart but I find it very challenging to like him and I also feel as though he may have some serious issues that neither of his parents are willing to look at.

I feel like saying these words out loud make me a horrible person and I am not sure if I sound as bad as I think I do or not. Please let me know if I do.

I have done many things for my SS for a long time we have been together for 6 1/2 years so I have been in his life since he was almost 7 years old. I have tried everything to relate to him from being his friend to being a parental figure in his life and nothing works. I believe the Bio-Mom has a lot to do with this, since she really hates me but I can't change her behaviors as much as I would love to.

Has anyone ever been in this situation? How do you handle it? It has gotten worse rather than better he lives with us 50% of the time which means there are times where I have to pick him up from school, feed him dinner, take him to sports events etc but SS won't even speak to me. For instance I can pick him up from school and ask him how his day was just as I would for my own children and instead of the play by play about the day that my kids will give he bursts into tears and doesn't say a word. I feel lost right now and don't know what else to do....

Hope I don't sound terribly rude or mean because I really have attempted to build a relationship with him but it seems impossible! Sorry it was so long thanks for reading!!
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