Join Date: Sep 2005
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My ds's father and I split up when he was 14 months old, and I started dating dh shortly after. Ds does not remember a time that he did not live with me and dh. His father is still involved and ds1 and him have a great relationship. There is no fighting between ex and I, we co-parent quite well on the whole.
Dh and ds constantly are at each other and it drives me nuts. I am scared that as ds gets older, it will drive him away. Dh reminds him about the same kind of behaviors that I do. ex, sitting at the table properly, attitiude, etc but ds1 gives him major attitude, which then drives dh off the deep end.
Sometimes I intervene, but I try not to do it in front of ds. I want ds to see us as a united front.
I think the biggest problem is that ds is alot like me and his father, total computer geek, loves games, very social.
Dh is VERY outdoorsy, he simply cannot understand that Byron would prefer to read or play a computer game. My dh is always outside hangin in the yard, hiking through the bush, fishing etc.
I thought that ds1 starting hockey would be something that would bring them together but it hasn't so far, even though it has given them some common ground for talking about.
so what do I do!!!!
Vanessa , wife to Kev , mama to Byron (5) and Billie (2) and due in June