ok so my stepson won't stop peeing and pooping his pants all over my house on purpose, im sick of cleaning it multiple times a day. I have tried to make him clean it but all efforts have failed. There is no punishment that works for him, I have tried taking stuff away he doesn't care, I have tried time out he could care less, I tried spanking him (I am against it and have never tried this before) that failed he didnt give a crap. I have tried sending him to his room he enjoys it so that's not a punishment, I have tried taking toys away failed, I don't know what else to do! He is mean and rude to his sisters and baby brother all the time I have to force him to talk to them, He is rude and nasty to my husband and I. I just I don't know what to do anymore. He is supposed to be getting a play therapist but I haven't heard from them yet... This is all so stressful!!! I don't know how much more I can take... He sneaks into the fridge late at night and helps himself to whatever he wants, leaving the fridge door open for everything to spoil which happned this morning, I don't have 200 dollars or more to replace everything I had in there. I have tried everything!!! I know he has been through alot of trauma in his past but that's not an excuse for behaviors that he knows are unacceptable. I have had alot of trauma in my past and as a child and I have never and will not ever use that as an excuse for anything. So I don't want to hear it. These caseworkers that are up my ass all the time are driving me nuts, there is no reason for them to even still be in my house let alone annoying me everyday of the week. Getting turned in to CPS every time I turn around for false reasons is really taking it's toll on both my husband and myself. Anymore being in the same room with each other for more than two minutes is torture. I had my three year old daughter completely potty trained, Four days no accidents nothing. Then she saw my stepson pee and poop his pants on purpose now she thinks she can do it too! So now she is back in diapers too. I have put my stepson back in diapers, I don't know what else to do. I have four kids I can't be cleaning that up every twenty minutes out of the carpet with two other children running around and one starting to walk. I just can't. I never thought I would hate being a stay at home mom to my kids. These past couple months I have wanted nothing more than to trade places with my husband. I feel like I'm starting to have resentments toward him that he gets to go to work and doesn't have to deal with most of the crap that I do. I chose to stay at home yes but I never thought I would have to deal with this. I have a four year old who gets in my face and screams at me when he wants a drink, He gets my daughter's faces and screams at them for no reason, He get's in my 10 month old son's face and screams at him. He tells my three year old he hates her. He kicked my 10 month old in the head. He tries to hurt my daughter's all the time. He tried to push my almost 2 year old daughter down the steps. The only reason she didn't go down on her head is because I grabbed her in time. Don't get me wrong I do love my stepson he can be very sweet, loving, kind, affectionate, funny, and nice. He just hasn't shown any of this in two months or more. I feel like I'm losing my damn mind. I'm getting a migrane just thinking about all this stuff. Sorry I don't mean to vent and rant on here, I have no one to talk to. I have tried to talk to my Sister in law about it because she has kids too but she basically told me to bend over backwards and spoil him rotten instead of discipline him, My mother in law told me the same thing, My husband is so stressed from all this and work that talking to him about how I'm feeling just adds to his frustration. I don't have my mother in my life anymore, I haven't spoken to her in over a year so I can't count on her to be there for me. I haven't spoken to my sister in over six months so I guess I don't have her to fall on either. I guess that's what happens when your mother divorces your father, then she marries a Convicted Child molester and your sister thinks your wrong for not letting either one of them around your children. My dad talks to me I have talked to him about some of it but the only response I get from him is "I don't know how you do it, I couldn't put up with that" Yeah well thanks dad that's not much help. I feel like I'm trapped in a pit of quicksand and no matter how much I try to climb and reach for the top to get out of the hole I just sink further into it. I'm not happy anymore, I'd rather sit on the couch and cry then to get dressed and leave the kids home with my husband and go out for the day. I feel so lost and alone.