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#1 of 3 Old 08-21-2012, 09:35 AM - Thread Starter
 
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So I have been dating my boyfriend about a year and a half and we live together, he has a 20month old son from a previous relationship. We have him about one or twice a week. She told us that he has peed in the potty once but she is not the sharing type with us and we have no clue how she is going about potty training him. Last he was over and i tried to get him to sit on our toddler potty and he freaked out as soon as i took of his diaper. Latter i Tried and i tried to make him more comfortable by playing in the bathroom and very slowly step by step getting him to sit with his diaper off but again as soon as he realized he was sitting on the potty he freaked. is there any tips some one can gave give me to help him be more comfortable or should i just not try to help with potty training at my house? And going to her is out of the question we had to fight for set days to see him and when i first moved in with my boyfriend she tried to keep her son from being around me, so she is not all that open with us sadly.
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20 months is early, especially for boys. Personally, I would let it go and change diapers in the little time that I had with him. Another idea is to broach the subject with her directly: "in the interest of keeping his routine consistent and predictably, we were wondering if you could fill us in on your plans for potty training so we can follow through when he's with us."
 

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A lot of kids become interested in the potty around 18 months or so, then back off and aren't interested again for many months. I wouldn't push potty training, but if you are interested in encouraging him, when you take his diaper off you can ask if he wants to try the potty. If he says no, just say "okay" and put a new diaper on him. And if he does, just let him go check it our, maybe sit on it if he feels like it, maybe or maybe not pee... and as soon as he doesn't want to (even if he stops outside the bathroom door or is just about to sit on the potty) just say "okay" and put a diaper back on. Maybe if you are laid back and show him it is up to him, he will be less resistant because he doesn't think he'll be forced to do something he doesn't want to do. 


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