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#1 of 3 Old 05-13-2013, 04:02 AM - Thread Starter
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Hi Everyone,

I'm brand new at the blended family game and will have a million questions for you mama's who have been there!  I currently have a 9 yr old dd and my partner has a 3 yr old ds.  I just found out last week that I"m 5 weeks pregnant and of course we have been figuring out the best path of blending families since we do not live together right now.  


The only issue that has come up in my mind so far is my DD. She has expressed many times that she doesn't like me dating anyone and that she never wants a brother or sister or anything to change. She has anxiety issues that we have been working with councilors on.  Thing is she love my BF and his son, just doest want anything to change. 


How did/would you tell an older child that baby is coming and we will eventually be moving in together? We are taking it slow, not rushing the process but soon it will have to be said! I will contact the councilor as well, but wanted to hear any experience here and how to make this a positive experience for her!

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This is an difficult situation to be in. I do not have any answers but hope someone chimes in soon. Good luck mama!

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Maybe sit her down and ask her why she feels this way. I was the oldest child and , honestly, when my mom and dad started having kids I was scared as hell! maybe she is just nervous and doesn't know how to articulate that nervousness. I think reassuring her (which I know you are doing Awesome Mom minasmom) that you love her and that will never change. Or you can make it even easier- watch the Lion King. The Lion King, single handedly helped me understand and accept life and change in general.

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