Just some food for thought... 4 years ago, my ex-husband decided to randomly leave me. We were friendly, so I thought, and I had a son, then 14, and he had a daughter, then 9 who had been raised as siblings. My exhusband basically cut me and my son out of his daughter's life- I lost my "daughter" and my son lost his "sister". My stepdaughter, last time she emailed me 2 years ago, expressed how much she missed me and my son so much, but wasn't allowed to see us. Whatever you and your husband's situation is, if either of you are close to the other's children, or if either of your children are close to eachother, please, please, please, put that first and foremost, and do everything in both your power to make sure that each child doesn't lose a parent completely, that each child doesn't lose a "sibling". That's the one thing that will hurt your children the most. I have no info on my stepdaugther except her last email where she sounded so sad, but I can tell you, my son, now 18, still wonders how his "Dad" could just cut us out of his life, out of his "sister's" life, my son also has attachment and trust issues now, because his family was cleanly split in half. You and your husband need to work together, if only on one thing, it making sure the children have as much contact as feasable (even when, later, the two of you have new partners) with whoever- parent, sibling- they want to or need to.