Such a touchy selfish thing to be upset about. Being a Stepmom you aren't supposed to complain about the time and money spent on your husbands child. I have had serious fiery backlash for less. I am blessed with a great husband who is a good father, definitely a plus, but sometimes it is so hard.
I think most stepmoms go through the generous-then-resentful phase. When my husbands car broke down he started driving my second car. When that broke down he drove my personal car to drive 6 hours round trip to go get his son. Put thousands of miles on it over time and now its on its last leg...anything for SS.
My husband lost his job. I had my check deposited to our joint account and HALF was taken by the state for back child support. I had to get high interest loans to pay bills...anything for SS.
While my husband was finding a job I struggled to pay our bills by myself. I was so relieved when he got a job only for him to get a garnishment letter saying half his paycheck will be taken out plus insurance so he will probably only be able to cover his own gas to go to work and to get his son, maybe a few groceries. but I'm still struggling to pay bills...anything for SS
there's so much more but I wont even get to the time thing. The law says it is not the step-parents obligation to support a spouses child. Well there's loopholes in everything I guess. When the courts demand he pays half his earnings to his ex plus insurance. He cant support himself, so I end up supporting him so he can support his child in the manner the court sees fit. So it still affects me.
Basically to be married to him I have to support his child indirectly and give up on affording children of my own. I waited to have kids until I was married, never been on welfare, always worked=no support. Had I just nonchalantly
not worried about pregnancy and had a kid whenever=tax break, medical, food, housing, child support. I think that's the part that really bothers me.
I think most stepmoms go through the generous-then-resentful phase. When my husbands car broke down he started driving my second car. When that broke down he drove my personal car to drive 6 hours round trip to go get his son. Put thousands of miles on it over time and now its on its last leg...anything for SS.
My husband lost his job. I had my check deposited to our joint account and HALF was taken by the state for back child support. I had to get high interest loans to pay bills...anything for SS.
While my husband was finding a job I struggled to pay our bills by myself. I was so relieved when he got a job only for him to get a garnishment letter saying half his paycheck will be taken out plus insurance so he will probably only be able to cover his own gas to go to work and to get his son, maybe a few groceries. but I'm still struggling to pay bills...anything for SS
there's so much more but I wont even get to the time thing. The law says it is not the step-parents obligation to support a spouses child. Well there's loopholes in everything I guess. When the courts demand he pays half his earnings to his ex plus insurance. He cant support himself, so I end up supporting him so he can support his child in the manner the court sees fit. So it still affects me.
Basically to be married to him I have to support his child indirectly and give up on affording children of my own. I waited to have kids until I was married, never been on welfare, always worked=no support. Had I just nonchalantly
not worried about pregnancy and had a kid whenever=tax break, medical, food, housing, child support. I think that's the part that really bothers me.