On the whole picture and fairness with other kids issues, I don't think it will come up much, but I'll keep an eye out for it, now.
Dss really wants siblings and keeps asking when he'll get some.
Plus, I've been a part of his life since before he has memories so I don't think it will be a big issue. He actually prefers cuddling with me to dh cause we are blanket buddies.
I guess the thing that I try to do most is to make sure our interactions with him are full of quality, simple adventures. Dh and I make sure he gets outside activity everyday he is with us, even in winter, b/c otherwise we know he doesn't always get it.
We also make sure our discipline is 100% consistant, which I think has been good, b/c every couple of years she wakes up to the whole need for it and goes overboard. I think she might have finally set a new workable system up (in the last 2 weeks so we'll see), b/c she is terrified his bad listening skills will get him into trouble when he starts kindergarten.- I don't think it will be an issue cause he listens fine here and at daycare.
We also limit his tv intake cause he was getting way too much. Actually, I am grateful that his dr. recently told her to cut down on the tv. b/c it can lead to ADD.
I don't mean to bash for a sec., but he was watching Way too much tv. So we try to limit tv. and go adventure scouting on the canoe, trails, on his bike, etc. as much as possible. At the very least we play in the yard. Oh, I guess that is a thing, we make sure we play with him and interact on a personal level.
And we also make sure he has friends over here that he gets to play with on a regular basis. He only gets to play his her niece over there, so I think it is important for him to have friendships that he can grow with. While it seems like we cram a lot into our bit of time with him, we also try to limit the hurry of the world as much as we can.
Sorry, I'm long winded. I should be working so it is easy to get carried away!!