My husband announced today that his former parents-in-law would be in town tomorrow evening and want to take DSD to dinner with her mother. Then his parents call and say they are going too. I assumed we were going to send the child and maybe have a night to ourselves or something, but it became clear that he was thinking that we would go to dinner along with them.
I don't want to go!! I am six months pregnant. I don't want to have dinner with my in-laws, and DH's in-laws PLUS his ex-wife. Any one of those is challenging alone--but the whole group???? No way.
Am I being unreasonable in not wanting to go?? I almost suggested that DH goes by himself, but then I decided against that as an option. I don't want him going to this weird reunion with his pregnant wife sitting at home.
I know he is fond of his former in-laws, and I don't have a problem with him maintaining some sort of relationship, especially with their grandchild involved, but I don't want to be involved too much and I think his family could use some more boundaries altogether.
I feel that he and his parents think I should be more social with his ex-wife, which makes me feel that no one really understands my situation and how uncomfortable it is. The ex is in my life aplenty since there is a child, and we are totally amicable, but I don't want to go to parties, dinners, holidays with her if the occasion does not revolve around the child (birthday, school, sports...)
What do you think, please? Let me know if you think I'm a bad person for not wanting to join in and go along with the program. If I had a body double, I would happily send her along. Thanks for any advice!!