I don't think any of you are reading this. I was hoping you were because I could really use some advice on how to mother and detoxify not only DS but their DCs as well.
Okay.. GF and her DH have a lock on their bedroom door. Sticking all three kids in the same bedroom at bed time is a nono. Too many fights ensue. So, we (four adults) have been putting my DS into GF's bedroom in order to get him to go to sleep and the other two as well.
Once again, her two go to bed in tears. They actually have to be put to bed with a video on or they won't sleep!
DS may or may not have turned the lock on in the bedroom, because their daughter tattled that she couldn't get into her mommy's room.
That set GF into a panic of "he'll go into our bathroom and do who knows what!"
Which set her husband off.
He went to the door and literally tried breaking it down. That didn't work, so out came the credit card and several more shoves. All the time he was yelling at DS to "Open this door or you're going to get spanked!"
Finally he opened the door and there was DS, eyes open wide, hiding underneath the covers. (Gee, I wonder why?
No, DS didn't get spanked. DP and I were both there. If that man had laid a finger on DS, I would have been all over him.
But DP was between me and BF so that meant that I would have had to have gone through DP first.
The knob was taken off and DS was allowed, by them, to go to sleep.
I'm going to have to cuddle DS some tonight. I know the cosleeping he's been doing has been his only comfort. I know that he's having problems because he refuses to sleep anywhere but by my side, and even then, his is a restless sleep.
I've looked up transition houses in the area. There's a least one. DP doesn't like the thought of my going to one, but if DS gets smacked again by either of them, my children and I are out of there. I found what is and isn't legal in Canadian Law and they are just skirting the edge with their own children. If they touch DS again, they will be breaking the law and I will let CPS handle them. What will happen is that the kids and I will end up going to the hospital, every single bruise or red mark on him will be documented, and CPS will interrogate me. Then they will stop by here and have a "chat." They may or may not remove GF's children right away, but will at least give her a significant scare. If the cops go with them, whoever was the culprit would probably get arrested. That will destroy any relationship we've ever had with them, but I have to put my foot down.
That is when DS, DD and I will be in a transition house and we'll be stuck there until our new place is ready to live in.
DS currently has red marks on him I can't be sure where they came from.
I'm hoping its from his nuclear diaper and not from either of them. If I find out that they have hurt him.
I need some help here. I need emotional support. I need to know that I can get my children and me through this.