Join Date: Mar 2005
Location: England, easily locatable by Google
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If you haven't already, I would get a non-molestation order with warrant attached- any breach of the order would get him immediately arrested. If you don't qualify for legal aid and you're not a union member, ring your local refuge (I know the Oxford one used to be very good) and ask them to help you with the paperwork. You don't need a solicitor to do it.
I, personally, would be inclined to open a bank account with your own bank, but one of the London branches (anonymous, but you could switch the money between accounts instantly) cash the cheque and use it to take your kids to Legoland or somewhere spendy. I'm also having bad thoughts about all the fun things you can do with a fraudulent ex's bank details- for instance, CSA- Inland Revenue- Benefits Agency fraud line- and so on. It could make his life interesting for a time.
Oh- I am not in any way advocating allowing him anywhere near your life. I'm just saying, take the money. Kids are work, money makes the job easier, and whilst 80 per month is laughable, it's better than nowt. It doesn't HAVE to be on his terms.
Helen mum to five and mistress of mess and mayhem, making merry and mischief til the sun goes down.