Not like you but my sweet Kip has been my children's father for longer than their bio was.
Bio "works" too much to see the kids, age 8.5 and 6.5 on anything more than a sporatic basis. He sweeps in, takes them to Disneyland, or Montana, then will not see them for another 2-3 months. That and he is 12 grand behind in childsupport. He tells me that "if I did not demand so much in childsupport, he would not have to work so much overtime."
: The state sets the childsupport jack arse!
To make matters really bad, I can not put my foot down as he is in law enforcement. He can and has had me arrested if I did not do things his way. (all charges dropped, but not until he got the house, car and I had to fight for the kids, all so he would not have to pay)
So yeah, I feel for your hubby, and you. You live with the constant worry that bio wil sweep in and reek havic on your happy home, only to disapear until convenient for him to be a daddy. (like when showing off for his side of the family) Smile, the girls will know the difference. They will know the love of day to day, and realize that bio is full of it.
Mine did, all on their own. Never talk badly about bio, but never cover for him. that is my motto.