Now, I know some other people on this board do the same thing, but please try not to judge me, I'm pretty down over this and just need to get it out...
My SO gets so angry with me whenever there's a probelm with dss or something we need to talk about concerning him. Especially if it's something bothersome, or something that needs discipline (I don't have specifics in mind, but this happens regularly)..
I get really hurt and upset. If I have to 'complain' about my DD, he will let me rant, rave, cry, be angry, be hurt, and just say anything I need to, and he's so supportive and understanding. He's just great about it.
But if I say one sentence about dss that isn't 100% the most positive thing in the world, he gets incredibly angry...
How does this help anyone?!?! I'm supposed to act like dss is the perfect golden child? I can't. He's not perfect, noone is. I'm certainly not, and neither is SO or DD. NOONE is. However, I'm supposed ot act like dss is, and it's hurting badly.
I posted something in the Childhood Years forum a few minutes ago about dss's constant crotch grabbing. SO and I have talked about this several times, and have *always* been on the same page about it, until tonight. I mention it briefly, and he says 'well, I'll just cut his hands off then', and yells, and gets quite angry.
Maybe he feels I'm harping/nagging, and maybe I am, however, when I do this concerning DD, he's sooooooooo patient and supportive
I understand it's just defensiveness, but how does he expect me to raise this child with him if I'm not allowed to treat him as my own? How come I can't complain about something if I need or want to.
It's after midnight and I'm just sitting here crying over him jumping at me like that... How can I better handle this?