My 7 year old stepdaughter just never wants to do things for herself. Not get her own cereal, a glass of juice, put on her own shoes, zip up her coat, etc. etc. She basically demands that her father and I do it for her.
I find this really weird - all the kids in my family were very independent I guess. But when she says to me "I'm thirsty." I say "Well go get yourself a glass of juice, then." She acts like I'm crazy. "I don't know hooo-ooow."
Now, obviously a lot of this is based on the way her mom does everything for her (we have her 2-3 nights per week) at home. I don't think she even brushes her teeth by herself at her mother's house. But thank god she's stopped asking us to do it for her here.
I don't know - is this normal behaviour? When I was a kid we were always climbing up on the counters to get stuff out of the cupboards, opening the fridge, stuff like that... it's like it never even occurs to her. And I really think that a 7 year old should put on her own shoes without asking for help. It's not like there are any laces to tie, since she outright refuses to learn how to do that, too...
Anyway, I'm just afraid she'll end up being one of those teenagers that can't do anything for themselves. And she of course think i am "mean" when I tell her to do this stuff herself.
Am I expecting too much?