Originally Posted by stressedstepmom
. If my stepdaughter comes to me and goofs off with me, she immediately calls her to her then tries to hug an kiss her (on the mouth, yuk!!). Of course I know this is going to happen so when my stepdaughter goes in her direction I look at some paperwork or look off into the opposite direction as if I saw or heard nothing.
This little girl is 9 years old and her mother still picks her up and holds her like a baby and carries her around the Gym where she has practice. She only does this when I'm present. My stepdaughter says her mom doesn't do anything like this when I'm not there. And this is with me minding my own business. I would hate to see her behavior if I tried to get noticed.
Oh, yeah. And ex leaves messages like "Meet mommy outside the gate tomorrow. . " He's 10! He understands pronouns!
The ex in our life got a little less crazy when we made a effort to include her. I'd take dss to the store to pick out mothers day cards, or help him make her a present, give her copies of photos, copies of school work, ask her opinion on things, invite her to his swimming lessons, tell her a cute story he said about her.
I have to say that the thing that made her the most sane was that she had a baby with someone else and now is pregnant again! No more leaving 10 messages in a row on our voice mail, or being so obsessive! Not that that helps you much
I always felt that all the mediators, courts, never saw how she really was. A mediator actually told dh that she sounds like "a good time girl" when he complained about her drinking!
As far as being a non-parent, dh always said he couldn't make any decision without his wife. He wouldn't buy a car with out my imput, so he's not going to set up a custody schedule, or make any other decisons without me. It's half my house, money, time, too, so I have to be involved.