Yeah, you're right MAMAMASTAR2.
I have a habbit of biting off more than I can chew. I would help the world if I could. I have 5 dogs that I took in, most were mistreated by others and some were abandoned. Now I take them to the shelter. I took in my mom because I wanted to take care of her. I know she's old and set in her ways. She's been like this my whole life, I shouldn't be surprised. Sometimes, I guess when I'm in a mood, she can really crawl under my skin. Most times I just ignore her because I have bigger problems to deal with. I stress so much about helping my stepchildren. It really hurts me when I see what their mother does to them.
As far as a man hitting a woman that is hitting him...my mom used to hit my dad when I was little. She would hit him and dare him to hit her. It usually happened when they were drinking. She doesn't think I remember, but I do. I just never bring it up. Her answer for everything was to hit them. There were several times that she hit him or threw things at him or tried to break his stuff. There were a couple of times where he finally had to throw her out of his way so he could leave the house. Once or twice I saw him slap her because she was coming at him with both hands.
Sad thing is...my sister has been in several DV relationships. Some, she hit her man, other times her man hit her. She never got help. I turned out totally opposite. When I get angry, I attack with my sharp tongue, not my fists.
I'm not old fashioned. I feel if I deliberately hit you to cause you pain (regardless of your gender or size) you have a right to hit me back.
But, I'm not a violent person. Even when my husband's ex tried to hit me. I just ducked and walked away. I could have hit her back, but that is not the kind of person I am. I prefer to put my taxpaying dollars to use and call the police. I prefer to get a restraining order.