He is on his 5th counselor in 3 years. They pass him on for one reason or another.
He said today that when he is complaining about the way he is unjustly disiplined, he fails to mention what he did wrong. He always says he doesn't know why he was in trouble.
He originally started counseling because they thought he had ADHD. One counselor said he acts the way he does because Dad won't let mom speak to him face to face. Apparently she was a student and mom was visiting with her daily whereas dad only went with the boy on his scheduled visits. The counselor nearly said what mom has been saying word for word. She thinks if she can dad can talk face to face then the boy would be better. He's 12, the restraining order has been in place since he was 9. Mom got to talk to dad face to face for the first 9 years and the boy had more problems then, then he does now. Go figure. She stopped because her semester in school ran out and she changed classes.
The second counselor felt he was suffering from anxiety and depression, but he passed him on to the 3rd couselor to get a second opinion.
The third counselor said he was normal and to ignor him, but focus on dad's house, dad's rules, mom's house, mom's rules and sever any communication beteen parents. He instructed the children to not tell either parent what's happening at the other home and call 911 if they have a problem, but don't call the other parent. We stopped taking him because this counselor thought cutting the kid off when he started to speak about something that bothered him was best.
The fourth counselor was better, she listened and tried to help. She was very interested in speaking to the parents (even stepparents) to get a handle on the boy. She had to stop because the grant that was funding her work ran out.
Now he's on the fifth. She's the best so far. She's the supervisor of this counseling place. She's very interested in helping him. She has her concerns about mom always saying the boy is fine and well behaved then my husband and I bringing many concerns about him. We now have emails from his teachers with the same concerns we already brought to the therapist. At least that will prove we are ligit.
Anyhow, this boy knows what a therapist wants to hear. He knows that the therapist won't talk to anyone for him so he stopped telling her things that bother him about all his parents (me included). He says, "Why tell her something she can't fix?"
I just hope that this evaluator we have to go to can see that he is a typical child like the ones on Nanny 911 who plays the parents against each other to get his way.