I also am a stepmother. Sometimes you feel alone in what you go through until you read others posts and you just have to laugh because you realize there are others that go through the same thing and that do understand.
My husband and I have 2 beautiful children together and he was 2 children from his previous marriage. They have lived with my husband from the beginning of their divorce. My stepdaughter, who is more like a daughter to me...are very close. My stepson however (age 12 now) has always had some type of problems and I kept mentioning things to my husband that he needed to see a therapist. He would hear things breathing, see monsters peering at him, up all hours of the night screaming etc... even with the light on. This seemed to only happen at night. Although during the day, he was a terror. Always starting fights with the other 3 children and very reclusive. Long story short...while at his mothers one weekend, she walked in on him molesting her other son (age 6) It apparently had been going on for a year and he too had tried to molest my son. Scared to death of what eles he might try...I took our children out of the home until things had calmed down. I had my stepdaughter over every day I could. My stepson had also drawn pictures of family members dead etc.. He scared me. Our daughter is 3 and son 6 at the time. Of course I as a stepmom, got yelled at by my husbands side for leaving my stepson and how terrible I was for it. Funny thing, everyone eles understood why I had to protect my children. As did my husband. It was hard on us. All this said...my s.s. was in a boarding school for 2 years and in Aug it will be up. What to do then. I am very scared and unsure what to do. Since he's been gone, our son has stopped peeing in his bed (which is a concern to me of was he scared of my s.s?) also during this time because he went into therapy, social services were called. And since my S.s. lived with us...it was a concern that with 2 young children in the home with him molesting....we were afraid they would take them out of the home. Another reason I felt I had to leave. What would you do?