Has anyone had any experience with mediators to work out "day to day/business of life" - type issues? Dh and dsd's mom were divorced 10 years ago, dh and I were married 4.5 yrs ago, and dsd's mom re-married 2 years ago so things have pretty much settled down from what they were like in the past. Dsd is 12.
However, we're still struggling with scheduling issues. We've tried talking - the four of us together, me and mom, me and stepdad, dh and mom, emailing, phone, in person, etc. trying to come to an agreement on how we do the schedule, protocol for changing the schedule, how we communicate, how involved dsd is in the whole process, etc. We cannot seem to agree on what's right/fair/reasonable on a whole bunch of issues.
Soooooo, dh and I are thinking it's time to bring in a mediator. No one associated with any court or agency - just an individual who helps all sorts of people resolve conflict, make compromises, reach an agreement about some open issue(s).
Anyone else done this? How do you convince the other party that it's a good idea, necessary, will help, etc.?
I made some calls today to get an idea of time committment, fees, style of working with clients, etc. and have some info coming in the mail that we can share with dsd's mom and stepdad, but mom has already made it clear she doesn't think it's necessary.