Trust me, my dh is no angel but as far as being abusive to his daughter or her mom, I don't think it happened. There was fighting and yelling but mom was also cheating on dad so....also, mom did a number of both of his childern emotionally, dragging them into court to testify against him (nothing in particular, just how life would be better for the son if he lived with mom, she had more money and could give him more stuff, drums, fancy school, etc.)...ss also uses these tactics against mom from time to time too. Right now, dad is on the receiving end....It seems that when he and I are doing great, she's mean to him and is nice to mom. When mom remarried (it didn't last) she fought w/her and didn't speak to her, but when mom divorced she let her back into her life....and now that she has a kid she has a new emotional weapon to hurt people with. Even before the divorce, she was a strange individual (as her mom testified in court!! and I wonder why she is so twisted). During one of the custody hearings, she wasn't speaking to her mom (she was on her dad's side then) and her mom said to the judge that her daugther was very self-centered and opportunistic and it was just her personality style, it was who she was...I remember feeling bad for dss when I heard her mom talk about her from such a distant, cold place. Anyway, at the age of 30, I believe she's aware of what she's doing and uses it to manipulate and punish both her dad and mom. She obviously has some major divorce issues and until she either experiences divorce herself (which is probably inevitable) or dad dies, her behavior isn't going to change. I just feel sorry for her son. Thanks for your input.