My ds bio dad has not seen him since he was 3 (he's ten) I do get child support becuz I went to DSS and got them to pursue support and garnish his wages. I had never had an increase although I was eligible becuz he had always threatened to drag me into court...well I finally said it's time for an increase and had the state reevaluate my order for support, surprise, I get a $500/mo increase. Well after not having any contact in YEARS, the phone starts ringing. He wants to see his son. I say ok, but you need to come here and get to know him and try and establish a relationship. He says no, I'm taking you to court...fast forward...I got served today with a papers requesting custody and/or visitation.
I'm worried about my son who doesn't know this person. It's not that I don't feel like his bio dad has no rights, he just hasn't tried to be there. My son is very close to his stepdad too.
My questions are multiple. First he filed the action in the county that the order for support orginated in, but I have not resided in that county for 8 years. How do I go about requesting the action have a change of venue...and do I need an attorney to do it? Secondly, he wants to forego mediation becuz he resides in another state. I think mediation would be better and much cheaper how do I push for mediation. Lastly, at what point do I actually need an attorney, are there resources that I can find to file most items myself to minimize legal fees or are their agency that will help me for a nominal fee. I reside in NC.
Thanks for any advice/guidance anyone can provide. I'm sort of at a loss as to what to do next.
Sabrina , mom to 4 fab kids!