DS, 2 yo, no longer wants to go to my dh. He cries for me, he doesn't like to play with dh or give him hugs. It has not always been like this. They have known each other for over a year now and were really close. There have been times along the way when I have had to take over all the discipline just so ds won't look at dh as the "bad guy". Ds goes to his dad's house every other weekend. When he returns, its even worse and dh takes it very personally. I keep telling him its up to him to make the effort to keep trying to make a relationship with ds, but he gets upset and think's ds's dad is putting dh down in front of ds and that is where ds is getting it. I think its partly because dh's parenting style is so much different-he's more likely to tickle or play rough or be stern and disciplinary rather than snuggle or cuddle. I have pointed this out to dh several times, but he doesn't even know he's doing it, its just his style - he does the same thing with his two children too.
Is this just a stage? Since he is so young and around us 75% of the time, its not really possible for him to go through life hating dh, is it? Dh is not mean by any standards. It hurts me when they can't get along and dh says he is tired of getting rejected all the time (asking for kisses and having ds run to me screaming mommy). Any help on this would be very appreciated.