This is getting so frustrating!! And right now, I'm so upset, I'm just crying..
Okay, here's the deal: we live in Wichita, Kansas. Right after we moved here, dss's stepdad moved him and the rest of his family down to El Paso, TX. dh and his ex made the agreement that they would meet halfway, and that dss would get to spend Christmas with us, along with his summer vacation. Well, last year, dh and his ex had an arrangement to meet each other halfway between El Paso and Wichita on a certain day at a certain time. Two days before, she called and said that no, she wasn't going to make it, and my dh would have to drive all the way. At that short notice, dh couldn't make arrangements at work, and also, we have been living on a VERY tight budget, so there wasn't much of a way for us to afford it.
DSS came and stayed with us this past summer. He was supposed to stay three months. After six weeks, his mother called and said he needed to come home so she could enroll him. In the middle of July. She did meet us halfway, though.
Two days after she and dss got home, they moved to Columbus, Ohio. She did not contact dh for a month. DH calls a few times a week, and all he got was a disconnect message, so didn't realize they'd moved.
Now, he's been trying to figure out a way to get dss here this Christmas. They won't drive him, they won't allow him to fly (even if dh met them in Columbus, and flew dss all the way to Wichita). DH offered to send them the money for gas to meet in St. Louis, but dss's stepfather told him that basically, he's working everyday from now until Christmas, and he's not going to drive on Christmas day. It's 900 miles from here to there, and we are so broke, we're not even sure how we're going to get gifts. Plus, dh is going to take time off of work to do this. I'm just so upset.
We really don't know what to do!! Does dh not have any rights in this? They have joint custody, but she still seems to have all the say. Also, I don't understand why she wants dss to suffer (he cries everytime we talk to him, wanting to see his daddy). Tonight, he asked his Dad, "Why do you have to pay my mommy money in order to see me?" I can't believe that!
Okay, so this is long. It just seems that a lot of things are going wrong right now, and I was hoping maybe someone out there may have some words of wisdom?