Join Date: May 2005
Location: southern CA/inland empire
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We've been a blended family over a year now. For a bit there, in the beginning, my SO's parents/sisters etc did the same thing. Spoiled DSS rotten, and not a thing for my DD.
Well, time went on, they got more comfy with the fact that we were sticking around, and SO had a talk with them. They're now treated evenly, although DSS spends more time with them. (we feel this is right and fair though)
I came right out once, and told my SO, anyone that cannot treat our children equally does not deserve to be in their lives, PERIOD. He agrees, although it took him a LONG time to get to that point.
The funny thing is, my DD's grandmother, (not MY mother, her biodad's mother), sends gifts to my DSS too!! She ALWAYS sends equal amounts of gifts/cards etc, for all bdays/holidays!! Amazing, isn't it?! She's such a caring loving person!
This past weekend though, you could really see how much more SO's family is accepting of DD. It took some time, but it's getting better.