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Old 01-05-2006, 08:43 AM - Thread Starter
 
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Title says it all really. Boys went to see daddy, mummy and daddy had an argument because mummy didn't want to drive over the mountains in a blizzard and daddy said she had to. Daddy brought boys home, with two carrier bags full of sweets and high as kites on crap. Littlest boy is asthmatic, and his asthma gets worse when he doesn't eat enough fruit and vegetables and when he eats too much junk food.
What they actually ate this weekend, according to the kids;
Friday: sausage, beans and chips, with jelly with fruit in it. Could be worse, except that Alex won't eat tinned beans. Chocolate biscuits, crisps.
Saturday: chocolate cereal, jammy toast, McDonalds, party food. More junk food in between times.
Sunday: chocolate cereal, jammy toast, party food, fishfingers peas and chips.
Monday: jammy toast. (they were home by lunchtime, and demanded hummus with LOTS of vegetables for lunch, then had four apples each in the course of the afternoon and roast chicken with four vegetables for tea.)
Oh, and daddy doesn't have a fruit bowl, or carrots in the fridge, or anything like that. He does have raisins though.
I can't decide if I want to laugh or cry- you can get 3 lbs of apples for 60p from ASDA (british walmart) and he can't even be bothered with that?
I swear, I'm not joking. Is there any way I can raise the subject and get the results I want?

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You can't really change someone else's behavior. What if you sent the kids with fruit in their packs when you ship them off to dad's so that if they want something healthy they can eat it?
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The op has a great idea, cause, no, there isn't much you really can do. but sending some with them to their dads is a great idea.
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It looks like I'll have to, though I suspect that'll start another argument. Thanks for letting me vent, though.

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Maybe the doc. can talk to their dad about the asthma getting worse with junk? I think that might be your only hope... that stinks.
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Sending some fruit and veggies with them may be an option, although I agree he might be offended - if you do it, I'd try to keep it low-key and child-directed, e.g. "they were snacking on these and wanted to bring them along" rather than "so they don't die of malnutrition at your place, I'm providing these..."

My stepkids' mom used to cross-examine them on what they ate at our house and send them over (I kid you not!) with Flintstones vitamins and leftover Big Macs so they wouldn't die of malnutrition because we're vegetarians!!
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Sending some fruit and veggies with them may be an option, although I agree he might be offended - if you do it, I'd try to keep it low-key and child-directed, e.g. "they were snacking on these and wanted to bring them along" rather than "so they don't die of malnutrition at your place, I'm providing these..."

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I feel your pain mama. My ex feeds DS CRAP all the time. Powdered doughnuts and fruity pebbles are DS's "healthy breakfasts" at ex's house. I also have an issue with ex giving DS milk when DS has sensitivity to dairy and milk makes him very sick (diarhea, excess phlegm, and usually leads to ear infections). I've told him several times that these foods are hurting DS but ex thinks I'm being over protective and DS will "grow out of it". I've even gave ex a container of rice milk to use, and he didn't use it!

I can relate to how you're feeling.

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