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|But I know once puberty sets in and all teh hormones start flowing she is going to have some major issues|
|but I dont want her to be crushed down the road by someone who is supposed to love her an dhas proved any times over many years that she really could care less.|
|I dont wanna devle onto too many details but I have feared for dd everytime she was been alone with her biomom, b/c she isnt responsible to even take care of herself and never has been ( biomom I mean not dd)|
Originally Posted by mamawanabe
I agree with the pp. Knowing her bio-mom voluntarily terminated her parental rights could be experienced as worse rejection for your dd than a hardly-ever-there biomon. I personally would take a flaky, undependable bio-mom who flited in and out of my life before one who decided legally that she didn't want me. It isn't like adoption where termination of rights is a way to give me a great family. If I already had a geat family, her tpr would be the ultimate rejection (why did she do it - to avoid ever having to pay money, so she could stop feeling guilty for not visiting, to finally wash her hands of me).
It doesn't sound like a good idea to push for this.
I know it is hard
Originally Posted by iamthesmilingone
Unless the child has never had any contact with the parent or they are a threat, let it be as it is- jmo