Thank goodness she is my former MIL.
I have over the years since the divorce from her son, tried to be the bigger and better person. I send photo's, have the kids call her on birthday, mother's day, V day. We send care packages of artwork, invite her to soccer games, school functions. She lives about 90 miles away from us.
This all started because I invited her to a "grandparent's day" at the school. She decided she could not make it... (no surprise, but I still invite) So I wrote her a sweet note about how her former neighbor and a good friend of hers went in her place. And that she really did not miss much.
Today I get an email from her stating that she often wonders if I treat my new MIL as horribly as I have treated her. She is one of those that you walk on egg shells around, afraid to say ANYTHING to as she will take it the wrong way.
Once, at the birth of my daughter, my FIL mentioned to the ex that, "You got lucky, see what booby's mom looks like? She will look that good at her age." (I admit my mom is cute, in shape and very natural looking, my former MIL is heavy, not very pretty and has false EVERYTHING, down to the tattooed eyebrows) Anyway, Ex MIL rants from the room, screaming at her husband that he should just sleep with my mom. ..... Okay so you get the point, you can not compliment someone else without her taking it as a criticism.
So I bent over backwards, apologized for insulting her, wrote again and again that I have never had any intention of hurting her feelings, I am sorry my words hurt her. Blah blah blah.... I get back an email saying that all I ever am is a bitch, everything I say is a back handed compliment...ect.
It is because of this toxic woman that I cherish my new mom in law so very much. I have called and told her I love her many times today.
The rational part of me knows to just keep killing her with kindness. There is a part of me that wants to rip this woman a new arse hole. That she should be happy that HER friend stepped in for her, that her granddaughter has a huge supply of loving women behind her at all times.
I love my new MIL almost as much as I love my husband. She looks for the good intent behind every action, is always supportive and even loves me for me, not because I married her son. (her biggest baby boy)
Well, now that I have vented what are your Former MIL stories?