Join Date: Feb 2006
Location: SE Portland, OR
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It looks from your photos that your son is really young (and really cute! Love those big brown eyes!). I think you might find that those thoughts sort of fade with time.
My daughter is seven now. Broke up with her father when she was 9 months old. Been married less than a year. Had a 4-year relationship in between break-up and new marriage.
Anyway, I think I used to have those thoughts and it had to do with feeling a sadness that my daughter was being robbed of a conventional upbringing. I wanted to keep tying her to her dad, thinking that he might come around one day. He never did. I thought some day she would express sadness over this, but instead, she's absolutely in love with my husband, who she considers her dad. We're working on having him adopt her. The bio dad has never paid child support, hasn't seen her in over a year. But he's a total control freak and won't sign consent papers, so we have to do it the hard way. I already got her name changed to our last name, but I will feel better knowing that if something happened to me, he couldn't come and tear her out of the life she knows, you know?
I totally digressed. Sorry. Anyway, I probably didn't help much, but know that you are not alone.