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#1 of 4 Old 04-11-2006, 02:21 PM - Thread Starter
 
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Just when things start getting better between my former spouse and I, the kids come home with head lice.


Now before you start thinking I have no idea where they came from, I checked the kids on Thursday of last week. Then they spent the weekend with dad, and yesterday I checked them again. My son has a headful of live BIG bugs, and about ten nits. Time line suggests sometime in the last 48 hours.

Not to mention my daughter and I had a huge blow out on Sunday after they came home.

The kids have no bedroom, no real beds, no place of their own at their father's. I have given him bunk beds for them at his house, they don't use them. (I have been told that their step sisters use them) He has claimed that they do not have the room for the kids to have their own room, or space. BUT!!!!! They have the money to do IVF to have another child. (this makes child number nine for them. his, hers, mine, and now theirs)

Okay thanks for the rant, now with some ideas.

How can I make them less susceptible to head lice? How do I help my daughter with the anger she is having from her dad having another child? How can I help them feel more "at home" at their father's? (okay that last one is something he can really do, but I can help, right?)

I really want a healthy, happy duel living arrangement for the kids. Any ideas?
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tea tree oil. Put it in her shampoo and conditioner, AND comb a bit through her hair before she goes to dad's house.

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Shampoo free works for us. The boys first year at school/playgroup, they were constantly riddled with the things. We went poo-free, and haven't had an outbreak since.
Making them feel at home at their dads is their dads decision, not yours. As far as the anger at the new baby, I don't know. I know Alex is pretty upset that his soon-to-be-stepmom is pregnant, although (even though? ) he loves his sister. I think the fact that his dad always wanted a girl and has a stepdaughter that he dotes on really bugs him, along with the new baby. I don't think Isaac gives a damn though.
FWIW, this visit is the first one that they haven't piled a 7yo girl, 7yo boy and 5yo boy into the same bed:and I think that's just wrong.

Helen mum to five and mistress of mess and mayhem, making merry and mischief til the sun goes down.
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headlice happens. Let it go. Next time it might be your kids who bring it to their family.

An "our" kid often strengthens the new family so while it may seem like a huge expense to you it may well benifit your children by strenthening that whole family unit. Try to see it as less them vs. my kids and more "their whole family" thing. Your kids are after all part of "their kids" right?

It takes real work to not try to second guess the other household's financial decisions but it will benifit your kids if you can try.

Best of luck.
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