Both me and DH have some areas where we do not agree. Not everyone can have the exact same views on parenting styles. The idea is to come to a happy medium. In my case, (these are minor examples) if we do not agree on something, and it is not detromental on my son's well being, then one of us bends in favour of the better solution...ie. he thinks it's okay to give sips of pop to our 16 month old, I'm dead against it, so we don't. He feels very strongly that I don't throw the ball in the house with our son, and me, well it doesn't bother me that much because he can not really do much with it since he's still so little. Yet this subject means more to my husband than to me, so I bend in his favour. I think it's important that you have a discussion with your DH in regards to what the real major issues are and how you come to a compromise with desicions. I also feel that the relationship that my husband has with our son, is different than the relationship I have with our son. IMO - if I observed that my husband was babying our son too much, that is between them, as I know that my son takes his q's from both of us and does not view us as an extension of one-another.