I am a mom of a 3 year old daughter. My stepmother treats my daughter differently than her 6 year old grandson. A little background- Dad married SM when I was 12 and my stepsister was 14. There's always been unfairness in our family. SM has always idiolized her daughter, and treated me differently so its no surprise she treats my daughter differently. Growing up SM pretty much ignored me and would go on and on telling me what a fabulous daughter she had. I love my dad, but growing up I hated going to visit him cause of my SM and stepsis. I have always been very close to my mom who raised me, and my stepmother has always been very jealous and threatened by that. Things improoved when I grew up and SM and I became closer, or so I thought. She became more openly affectionate towards me and told me she cared about me, which she never did when I was younger.
I thought things were going well. My mom and stepmom get along fine now, whereas they used to hate each other. I included my stepmom in my wedding and even made my stepsister who I am not that close to a bridesmaid. My stepsister(not married) had a baby before me. So when my daughter was born I was fine with my daughter calling SM Nanny just like her grandson does. Dad shows no favortism towards my stepsister's son or my daughter. My dad has always been so fair at treating both stepsis and me the same and the two grandkids the same. I hate it that SM can not do the same. SM at Xmas always gives her grandson more presents than my daughter, and she's more affectionate with him. SM has a shrine of pictures of her grandson, but only about 2 of my daughter. I worry that as my daughter grows older she'll see the favortism. I remember how hurt I was growing up when SM favored my stepsister. Now my daughter also has my mom and my MIL for grandmothers who are her biograndmothers. I don't know why I get so upset that my daughter's stepgrandmother isn't that interested in her. But it really hurts.