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Old 05-18-2006, 04:32 PM - Thread Starter
 
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SO and I are getting married in December. We are designing our wedding website. My dd 3 and his two girls 6 and 8 are going to be the flower girls. Under attendants I am suppose to list their relationship to me. Should I list them as stepdaughter's or do you have any other suggestions? They will be my stepdaughters soon but would it be inappropriate to have them listed that way now?
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I would go "daughters of the bride and groom" people should be abl to sort out by name whose is whose.

If you really want to clarify you culd say "groom's children" and "bride's children"

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Thank you! I like the daughter's of the bride and groom.
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Thank you! I like the daughter's of the bride and groom.
I would SOOOO not do this.

Instead say daughter of the groom.

If his ex finds your site, there really isn't any way quicker to create a hellish relationship with your future exwife-law (LOL) than to claim her kids as yours- even kind of.

honestly. TRUST ME!

Even when you are married they won't be YOUR kids, they will be your STEPkids or his kids. I love my skids like they were my own but I am not their mom. I am their STEPmom.
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Thanks MommyMine. I actually realized that as I was typing it on the website and put my dd as daughter of the bride and his as daughter's of the groom lol.
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Thanks MommyMine. I actually realized that as I was typing it on the website and put my dd as daughter of the bride and his as daughter's of the groom lol.
Sorry but I have btdt and I just know...I didn't mean to be harsh it is fun being in a blended family because you have to consider always the feelings of someone who might never consider your feelings and might even be quite awful to you...and still they are sort of "in your family" and you have to care about them...to an extent.
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I would definatly put daughters of the groom

my ex got remarried before I did. How ever months before the marriage she had posted on her websites referring to my sons who she had only been around once or twice as stepsons and I flipped out!

Its a respect thing, till the title is officially there I would wait
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I would personally use just "daughters". It may piss of the exwife, but think how great the dd's would feel ot be accepted like that!

But, as to not be too bold, I would put stepdaughters. Having "dd of groom" feels too....disconnected.... somehow. But thats just me. (my s-kids were my "stepkids" before we got married, and become "kids" after we got married.....)

p.s Congrats!
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