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#1 of 3 Old 05-29-2006, 11:05 PM - Thread Starter
 
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O.k I posted here a few months ago about my step-son decision to go into the Navy.However he decided two weeks before he was to graduate from H.S,that he was going to drop out.So he didn't graduate instead he got his GED.I was really surprised the way my husband handled it.
My step-son lived with us during his Jr. year.Then he went to live with his bio. mother for the summer.Only he didn't tell my husband or myself that he was going to stay with her for his SR. year.We found out through some of his friends what he was going to do.He really hurt my husband by not telling him.There is a lot of issues between my step-son and his father.He won't tell him anything or hardly talk to him.
Now he's supposed to go into the Navy Nov. 2.I'm concerned that he won't write or call his dad at all.I just want those two to get along.Any ideas?Thank you for any input anyone can share.
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Yikes, were you or your dh involved in his decision to enlist? Are there strong feelings around this? At 18 my guess is he won't be writing anyone much. The boys I knew who went off to the military really did their own thing, partied hard, and didn't really keep up ties at home, they took the enlistment as a new beginning or an escape. Sorry I'm not much help here but it's not something I've dealt with in my own family. Maybe dh could send him calling cards and that might up the chance of him staying in touch and letting you in on all the new things in his life? Good luck
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Yikes, were you or your dh involved in his decision to enlist? Are there strong feelings around this? At 18 my guess is he won't be writing anyone much. The boys I knew who went off to the military really did their own thing, partied hard, and didn't really keep up ties at home, they took the enlistment as a new beginning or an escape. Sorry I'm not much help here but it's not something I've dealt with in my own family. Maybe dh could send him calling cards and that might up the chance of him staying in touch and letting you in on all the new things in his life? Good luck
Yea. Both my dh and my best friend's dh joined the airforce and pretty much "left" their family for years. The military provides this family for them in many ways. They are both pretty close now though (as close as is normal for most men I know ). Anyway, the mom of my best friend's dh wrote him a letter once a week even though he didn't write back once. Maybe your dh can write his son a letter once a month or so, without expecting to hear back. It will sustain the ties.
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