Join Date: May 2005
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 1 Post(s)
Originally Posted by goosysmom
I just want us to be the family we were before all of this......and I don't think that's too much to ask.....
Originally Posted by MommyMine
Well what i just read was "thanks for all the advice but I don't plan on changing anything and we will see if doing it the same helps"
I bet not...I bet if you keep on doing it the same you will keep getting the same result.
In which case I think that your wish- that it be like it was before...is not likely to come true.
But best of luck with it. Tell us how it goes.
Originally Posted by choochymama
I've been following your story and responded to a post you wrote awhile back. I have so much sympathy for you because this stuff is TOUGH. The thing that kills me about step parenting is the total lack of control I have over the step child, and the dynamic between DH and his ex. I have to work on it all the time, in terms of learning to let go.
My step son changed dramatically when i got pregnant 2.5 years ago (he was 13 at the time). I've had many feelings about it, from feeling sorry for him to being angry with him. He's 16 now, so at least so I've been able to talk to him very openly about how we've both changed. We decided we were going to be honest with each other and that we didn't always have to like each other.
Maybe you can tell your Step daughter how you feel when she acts a certain way? Let her know that it affects you, not in a guilt trippy way.
I feel like you're at the end of your rope after trying for years to be patient and hoping that things will work out. What you describe is very difficult to live with. I hate to say it, but I agree with flapjack in terms of wondering if this isn't a dealbreaker and an issue that will eventually end the marriage. I hope not, but you sound like you're feeling more and more desperate and your partner seems unwilling to listen and work with you on it. I just don't know what to say except I hope for the best for you and your DD. I'll be keeping you and your family in my thoughts.
|198 members and 20,246 guests|
|1babysmom , acardone1702 , agilesheltie , Aillidh , AlaskAnne , allirue , AllTomorrowsParties , americanjuly , amyfarr , anamama , Anne Jividen , aylasebmom , bananabee , BarefootBrooke , BBDLL21 , belltree , birdinflight , Bjugstad , blissful_maia , bluefaery , Brit33 , Brittee , catladymeow , CDeRo , ChasingDreams , chickabiddy , chiefmir , chknlovr , chuord , clar5108 , cocoheart , Crazybean , Cricket VS , Crimson8 , crystalperez , CutiePie09 , Daffodil , dahlia810 , dani2015 , darkblue0729 , daytripper75 , dbsam , Deborah , drarmywife , earthchick , EllaD , elliha , Emanresu , emmy526 , es1967 , esg , Ethelpea , Evelynflower , featherstory , firmfoot , floss&ferd , frugalmama , fruitfulmomma , funfunkyfantastic , greenemami , ian'smommaya , iceface , JamieCatheryn , japonica , jcdfarmer , jennylam , JennyT , jojobean , joycef , kanani , katelove , kathymuggle , kitchensqueen , kleinemaus , larali , laura163 , LeLuna , Letitia , lightheartedmom , lilacvioletiris , lilgreen , lilmissgiggles , LiLStar , Linda on the move , loba , maia71 , Mallow , Mama Chickadee , mama24-7 , mamabear0314 , mamamargo , mariamadly , Mariluan , Mauimama2 , MeepyCat , meghanmetz , Michelle42 , Milk8shake , minerva23 , Mirzam , MissMuffet , moominmamma , MoonWomb , morganlefay , MPsSweetie , muldey , Mylie , MylittleTiger , NaturallyKait , Nazsmum , Nemi27 , newmamalizzy , oaksie68 , orangemomma , pokeyac , Pratchee , prosciencemum , ProudMamaSF , pumabearclan , rainydaywoman , rcb215 , rockdoctor , RollerCoasterMama , samaxtics , SandiMae , sarafl , Sarah-kate , sarahl918 , seap3 , shantimama , Shevas , siennaflower , SkiBum , smilingprego , Smokering , sofreshsoclean , Springshowers , SummerStorm22 , TBallman , TealCandy , thtr4me , Tigerle , tomsmom31 , TourmalineMama , TrishWSU , Turner58800 , typebug , Viola P , WantRice , weliveintheforest , Westcoast Recycle , Wild Lupine , Wild Rose , YogaBoga1 , Zenbe , zzzzzzane|
|Most users ever online was 449,755, 06-25-2014 at 12:21 PM.|