Join Date: May 2003
Location: In the monkey cage...
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I'd say it's time. It's so, so hard to let go of our kids (I say this as a bio-mom to two kids who live w/ their dad 3 nights a week and as a stepmom to a boy who lives w/ his mom 50% of the time), but it's almost always in their best interests to have plenty of time with both parents.
My state favors 50/50 custody, both legal and physical, and I think lots of states do that or are moving in that direction. In our situation, none of the bio-parents can make a significant change in the kids' lives (school, sports, medical care, etc.) without the agreement of the other bio-parent. It's difficult and tedious at times, but I for one am very grateful that it's set up that way. Of course, it's kind of easy for me since I get along well with my kids' BD. For my DH and SS's BM, it's a little more difficult, but it still always works out in the end, and all the kids have both parents active in their day-to-day lives.