Join Date: Jul 2004
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While I can't imagine doing this with my dd and don't think there are many AP parents that would, our last visitation with my 2 dsd, 16 &14 for two weeks (we only see them for 2 weeks in the summer) went so awful that Dh is considering this might be the last time they come. It's not that we would say don't come, but rather Dh said if you don't want to come, don't feel like you must. Normally they miss their mom, step-dad, and siblings, but over the past several years the tension has built, coinsiding with the birth of my dd oddly enough, to the point that they would retreat to their room and not come out till Dh went to bed and do all they could to avoid Dh the rest of the time. They refused to write a card for father's day or do the craft they picked out at the store for father's day as well. Never said "Happy Father's Day" either. I caught a peak on their mom's web site of them begging her to come get them. All in all, I have no real clue why they are so upset. I think the only reason the step-dad doesn't adopt them is the thought of loosing child support.
my sis and I know that the teen years are not the easiest of time but in most situations "families" pull back together. We're not their "family" and don't see a reason for them (besides $) to ever want us in their life.
What makes it worse is that they adore their "family" calls them several times and day, always looking for gifts for them and constant internet conversations, yet nothing towards Dh.
mom to 14yr dd and 4yr dd