My skids live with us full time and have since they were 3 and 9 months.
When my SD was 4, she went to her mothers, and told her that SD was going to be a 'big sister'. What she MEANT was "aunt".... very different meanings, but to her a baby was a baby...
Her mother sent us a sarcastic "Many congratulations on your pregnancy. I am pregnant too..."
Which was highly amusing to us, since we weren't. She then told SD that I must of had an abortion because I didnt have the baby....
Needless to say it's been interesting. Now that we ARE planning on TTC this year... I am not sure how she will take it. She has a much better relationship with us, and she's told SD she doesnt want ANY more kids.
I dont think we are going to tell SD we are pregnant until after the first trimester anyways... or SS for that matter...because we dont want their mother to freak out, and we dont want to tell them they cant tell her.
Should we tell her ourselves before the kids tell her? Frankly it's been a great year for us, but a rather hard one for her. We finaly got married, had a big wedding, then we bought DH the truck he's always wanted, AND bought a house. She still lives with her mother, and her new husband and her daughter in a 3 bedroom rental...and now she has to pay child support...so she isnt thinking happy thoughts toward us and while she's been friendly I dont want to jinx it, or push her into a corner where she gets unhappy.