Join Date: Mar 2006
Location: Back in the bush...
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Here's some background:
DSDs live primarily wth biomom, but are with us one day a week and every other weekend. For about a year while DSD2 was going through the "terrible twos" biomom would call us and ask us to please take DSD2 away because she couldn't "handle" her. We refused to seperate the girls, and she refused to give up DSD1 because she was an angel.
Fastforward to now, when DSD2 is 4. Things have gotten progressively better over the last 2 years, to the point that biomom only rarely calls to complain about DSD2.
DSD2 developed strep throat last week and was prescribed antibiotics to be taken three times/day for 10 days. Before I picked the girls up from daycare on Wednesday, I stopped by biomom's office to pick up the meds. Biomom told me that her bf (M) had to spank DSD2 to get her to take her medicine the night before because she refused to take her meds and just stood there screaming.
When I picked the girls up, I told DSD2 that I really needed her to take her meds so that she could play with the baby, and because I didn't want her to miss out on her trip to FL with biomom this weekend. I also said, "I heard M had to spank you to get you to take your medicine." She said, "Yeah, and then I was crying so he smacked my face."
I was absolutely speechless, and appalled, and felt nauseous at the thought of someone, anyone, slapping my baby...any baby, but particularly one who I've watched grow up for the last three years and who calls me "Mommy".
So what do I do? I felt sickened in sending her back to her biomom. I told DH, but he didn't get a chance to talk to biomom about it before they left for FL on Friday. In her defense, we don't know for sure that she knew M slapped DSD2. But what if she did know? She's said in the past that spanking both girls is the only way to "control" them. Personally, we just ask them to do things and explain why it's important, and it gets done.
I'm honestly worried about DSD2's safety in that house!! HELP!
Sarah - Mama to Vic (1/19/00), Syd (4/06/02) Sam (4/20/06-born at 30wk2d), JackJack (2/14/07) and Charlie (4/30/10)