My dd1 is about to turn nine years old. Each year for the past three years, she and her best friend have had a joint bday party. This year, they want to have it at a place called Pump it Up, basically a jumpy castle type place. Well, the cost is $235 for 1.5 hours and .5 hours of eating. Food is $2.35 a person extra. I'll only be responsible for 1/4 of the costs (her dad and I are divorced and the other family will pay half), but that works out to $60 plus my share of the food.
I'm a SAHM and we live on a tight budget with only one income. This cost seems like a lot to me (even if money weren't tight), but I don't want to be the one to put the brakes on this party. Sigh.
I haven't talked with my dh yet and I've basically already told dd's dad that he had to plan the party this year, so it seems kind of unfair for me to say, "you plan the party, oh I don't like what you planned", KWIM?
I could just let him do the party with the other family and then do something small here, but then she has two parties and that seems excessive. I do want to provide SOMETHING for her and not have her feel, once again, like dad and I can't get it together to cooperate.
How much is too much depends entirely on Your finances. Will that $100 for the birthday mean not enough cash for food, rent, etc? On the other hand, if it means giving up dinners out and movies for a month, I would do it.
We live comfortably, but modestly, and do spend about $100 - 150 per birthday, including the gift. (we deal with 2 birthday a year) Can you limit the money you spend on her gift and put that towards the party?
I know a lot of people are agains including children in financial decisions but in this case I think I would talk to my child. Id say, "Ok, Ive saved money for your birthday and we can do a couple of things with it...." I dont know that Id talk numbers but I would explain that, unfortunately, we have to choose between a couple of options and cant have them both.
Good luck working this out.
can you and her dad and her all get together and discuss it? maybe it is important to her enough so that dad will think it is a good idea and can throw in an extra $25 to $30. maybe she is willing to fo go a present in order to have a realy fun day. I mean really a trip to a place like this with a friend is something i would give my child as a present. will you and xh be able to atend together to celebrate her day? if not don't woprry about a n extra simple celebration being excessive. we always do cake and ice cream with family seperately sometimes involving 3-4 little celebrations depending on when everyone is available.
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