and I/we ask "what do you think" she does this all day like she needs reassurance constantly. it gets old. when we ask her to stop it only lasts for maybe 10-15 minutes and she is asking another obvious question.
Maybe she is craving attention. I'd answer her, but turn it into a conversation--ie., "yes, the cat is drinking water. She drinks so much water that I fill her bowl three times a day. Do you like to drink water? How much water do you think that you drink a day? Would you like to fill the water bowl next time?"
that or have her eyeschecked.
The truest answer to violence is love. The truest answer to death is life. The only prevention for violence is for the heart to have no violence within it. We cannot prevent evil through any system devised by mankind. But we can grapple with evil and defeat it, but only with love—real love.
My Livi bear 10/26/2006
I need some help with my 9 year old step daughter. She is nearly 10. My husband and I have have been married a little over 2 years now. I was introduced to his children over 3 years ago. He has 2 other children who have accepted me with very little issues. This little girl however does all she can to push my buttons. For example telling me to shut up, ignoring what I say and completely disobeying me. When her father is home I let him handle the discipline issues but when he is not I am the one in charge. She refuses to obey anything I say and completely ignores me. The other day in the car she closes the vents on her side of the car and then turns the AC off completely(it's 90+ outside). I asked her why she did that and she says I'm cold and said well your brother and I will get hot. She says he likes it hot to. I said well I don't . She says so what. I said well I'm turning it back on your vents are closed so it's not blowing on you. She looks at me and says I don't want it on I said well this is my car and I do. Her brother says nothing the whole time. Also at the house she yells and screams at me and I tell her you will not talk to me that way in my own house she says this is Daddy's house. I said no darling this is mine and Daddy's house and you will not speak to me that way in my home. I frankly told her she was very abusive to me and she is constantly telling lies. She kicks and fights with her brother and is just generally cruel and uncaring. Her mother has given her a cell phone and she is constantly calling her and telling her terrible lies. For example I grabbed her arm and left marks and I swing my fists at her. I have done none of this I did however flat out call her a liar and told her I did not like her personality one bit but I did none of this until she started behaving this way. I have always treated her with kindness and respect. I feel she does not have the right to treat me this way. I tell her father about it and we have family meetings to discuss the issues. She told her Mom that Dad always took my side but the truth is he asks his son what is the truth before ever talking with his daughter about her behaviour. These children are twins by the way. Anyway her brother tells my husband that his sister yells and hollers at me and is very bad. He has told his Dad about the treatment she lays on him too. When we returned the kids yesterday their mother started an argument right in front of them. She told my husband basically he should get rid of me because his daughter did not like me. She complained about him not believeing the child over me and he let her know that his daughter had lied so much that he tends to believe me and her brother over her. She goes she's your daughter and she has a problem and you believe your wife over your own child. My husband goes well what my wife says is confirmed by my son so who should I believe? And she goes your daughter.....that made no sense to me since by saying he should believe the daughter he should assume her twin brother is telling lies on her. Made no sense to me at all. I fear when she is older she will strike out and start hitting me that is how aggressive she is and with her mother defending this behaviour I don't know what to do. My husband has talked to her numerous times about this behaviour nothing works. I'm at my wits end. I'm thinking about packing myself and my son up and just leaving. Any help you can give will be appreciated.