Ok, with this post I may seem like I am babling on, if so, I'm sorry.
There are alot of things going on here lately that I just would like someone to talk to about. Some things I just don't understand. Maybe someone else who is in my shoes can help me (if there is anyone else).
Ok, my husband and I have been together for over a year, and recently got married in June. He has two children from a previous marriage, the daughter is 12 and the boy is 5. I have been trying SOOOOOO hard to get along with the daughter, but it just seems WAY TOO IMPOSIBLE, and just when I think I'm getting the hang of it, something happens. I think it may be that she is too much like her mother. Her mom is getting $500.00 a month for child support, most of it is just for the daughter. It really bugs me that when she comes to spend time with us, she is always yelling "money money money", something WE don't have because of her mom. The sad thing is, her mom isn't using it for the kids! This happens alot, and I'm not sure there is anything I can do about it. But honestly, she is SUCH an unfit mother, she is trying so bad to be a friend to her kids, that she forgets to be a mom.
She allowed her kids to go outside to the neighbors house and ride on a 4 wheeler, UNSUPERVISED. When it got out of hand the girl jumped off, leaving the 5 year old on by himself and ran into a building. Luckily, no one got hurt. But it could have been worse! When she was asked why she wasnt watching them, she said, she just had other things to do.
When my husband was getting his divorce, he did the simple divorce and filed it at the courthouse. All he put in it was, joint custody. THATS ALL. When she recieved the papers, she told him that she wasnt signing that because she didnt agree to any of it. (fortunatley she didn't have to be there and sign them) all she had to do was contest it with what she wanted. She wanted $8,000.00 a piece for each child to put in HER bank account, under HER name for them for college. She wanted my husband to pay for half of everything for the kids, medical bills, school supplies, school clothes (keep in mind she is getting child support for this). SHE JUST WANTS MONEY!!! My husband mentioned to her that she is getting child support for the children and she said, "no thats for me". This bugs me.
She never has the children on the weekend, cause she goes out and partys with her friends. I mean, I don't mind at all to keep them, but I would also like a weekend every now and then, is that too much to ask, and also, I think if I loved my kids, I would want to spend some time with them on the weekends too, especially when they are in school and I didnt get to see them that much during the week.
Does any of this make any sense to you? I just need help understanding things, and is there anything I or my husband can do? We are barely making it, and she is living it to the fullest. It just doesnt seem fair to me. Maybe I just need to be in your prayers.
I'm getting fed up with everything. I love my husband to DEATH, and I knew what I was getting when I married him, but its all getting to me. We have a 3 month old to raise too.
Im sorry, maybe im just over reacting... someone please help.
thanks,
Kristen
There are alot of things going on here lately that I just would like someone to talk to about. Some things I just don't understand. Maybe someone else who is in my shoes can help me (if there is anyone else).
Ok, my husband and I have been together for over a year, and recently got married in June. He has two children from a previous marriage, the daughter is 12 and the boy is 5. I have been trying SOOOOOO hard to get along with the daughter, but it just seems WAY TOO IMPOSIBLE, and just when I think I'm getting the hang of it, something happens. I think it may be that she is too much like her mother. Her mom is getting $500.00 a month for child support, most of it is just for the daughter. It really bugs me that when she comes to spend time with us, she is always yelling "money money money", something WE don't have because of her mom. The sad thing is, her mom isn't using it for the kids! This happens alot, and I'm not sure there is anything I can do about it. But honestly, she is SUCH an unfit mother, she is trying so bad to be a friend to her kids, that she forgets to be a mom.
She allowed her kids to go outside to the neighbors house and ride on a 4 wheeler, UNSUPERVISED. When it got out of hand the girl jumped off, leaving the 5 year old on by himself and ran into a building. Luckily, no one got hurt. But it could have been worse! When she was asked why she wasnt watching them, she said, she just had other things to do.
When my husband was getting his divorce, he did the simple divorce and filed it at the courthouse. All he put in it was, joint custody. THATS ALL. When she recieved the papers, she told him that she wasnt signing that because she didnt agree to any of it. (fortunatley she didn't have to be there and sign them) all she had to do was contest it with what she wanted. She wanted $8,000.00 a piece for each child to put in HER bank account, under HER name for them for college. She wanted my husband to pay for half of everything for the kids, medical bills, school supplies, school clothes (keep in mind she is getting child support for this). SHE JUST WANTS MONEY!!! My husband mentioned to her that she is getting child support for the children and she said, "no thats for me". This bugs me.
She never has the children on the weekend, cause she goes out and partys with her friends. I mean, I don't mind at all to keep them, but I would also like a weekend every now and then, is that too much to ask, and also, I think if I loved my kids, I would want to spend some time with them on the weekends too, especially when they are in school and I didnt get to see them that much during the week.
Does any of this make any sense to you? I just need help understanding things, and is there anything I or my husband can do? We are barely making it, and she is living it to the fullest. It just doesnt seem fair to me. Maybe I just need to be in your prayers.
I'm getting fed up with everything. I love my husband to DEATH, and I knew what I was getting when I married him, but its all getting to me. We have a 3 month old to raise too.
Im sorry, maybe im just over reacting... someone please help.
thanks,
Kristen