Jeff has a son that is 4. We had him Sunday thru Thursday from the time that he was a year old, until he was 2 1/2. Then his son's bio-mom took him to court and had a PFA filed against Jeff for bogus stuff. The judge put the PFA into effect even before we got the paperwork from CPS stating that all the abuse of Hunter was unfounded and the fact that Jeff and Hunter had a wonderful relationship. It almost killed us when they took him away!!
Well, I have 3 children, two of which call Jeff "Daddy". They absoultely adore him, and for the past two years he has been amazing with them. Doing everything that a good dad does. I was so amazed that a man could care so much about kids that weren't biologically his.
Now, we have Hunter again. The PFA was up in the beginning of June, and the custody order went back to the way that it was before where we have him Sun.-Thur. His bio-mother is pissed. She thought that because the PFA had been in effect that she was going to get full custody. Once we showed the court the paperwork from CPS, she didn't have a chance for full-custody. We actually have Hunter more time then she does. We are in the process of taking her to court for contempt, and she has over ten violations against her. There is a very good chance that we may end up with Hunter full time.
But, ever since we have had him back, Jeff hasn't been the same way with the girls. I know that he is excited that we have him back, and he has 19 months of catching up, and reintroducing himself to Hunter as his Daddy, but the girls are hurting. Haylea-Ann asked me the other day "Does Daddy still love me even though Hunter is here now?" It broke my heart, because he is noticably different now.
Should I just wait it out, and see if after the intial excitement wear off a bit, or should I say something to Jeff??? I don't want to sound selfish, or get in the way of him trying to reconnect with his son, but I hate seeing the other kids hurting too.
Christina:~Student mama to Collyn(13), Haylea-Ann (9):, and Natalie (8) , and SO to Jeff.