As for stepping away from them living with her moms parents, we have for 8 years. We cant help but think about that when we are told that she doesnt have $ to pay for something when she makes more than we do and doesnt have anything but a car payment while we have all of the "normal" household (we own/have a mortgage) bills. We dont say anything to bio mom or Caitlyn about it, though.
We have asked every year at open enrollment if bio mom wants us to add Caitlyn to our insurance. She always declines saying we dont need to do that. This is the first problem weve had with the set-up so, no matter what she thinks, we are adding her this year. If, God forbid, an emergency should arise while shes here, I dont want her to not help us with it, we would go bankrupt. We have tried to tell her about the importance of regular dental checkups, but it hasnt helped. She cancelled the appt she made to get her fillings done because "Caitlyn didnt want to go". That makes me angry. If she has cavities, they NEED to be filled or at least carefully monitored.
Because my husband is her parent down here, he was the one to authorize her dental cleaning when her gums were bleeding. That was the first cleaning shes ever had. So, the insurance was in her name, but the bill was ultimately in his name, set to her address because she was placed under DH's records.
|If Caitlyn acts spoiled at your house, you can teach her your values.
. All summer we went rounds with this. Shes at the age where she doesnt understand why she can go shopping for clothes/toys every weekend with her mom, but not here. Bottom line, we cant afford to. My son suffered because of all the talks we had about proper behavior. It was a circle that never ended. Her head is not with her heart right now. She knows at her moms, she gets what she wants whether it be because she asks or because she throws a tantrum in the middle of the store. She wants to be here because she has stability and family (no daycare), but she cant stand that she isnt getting weekly shopping sprees.
Im more worried about her future than her current behavior. She doesnt understand how this will affect her later in life and I dont expect her to.