We are happily married, and dd is doing fine, despite the fact that dh and dd ignore each other, seemingly stress freely, and when they do interact it's with sarcasm (nicely) and humor...
I think the humor is good, a way to interact without needing to be "close" and to practice getting to know each other.
BUT I HATE THAT THEY DON'T TALK!!!
I feel pulled in two different directions. We've had a hard road for the first 3 years of living together. Mostly b/c me and dh were fighting a lot, and some of it b/c of my overprotectiveness for dh (she was seven, now ten) and "coddling" of her. He was right, and when I stopped and addressed my guilt about divorcing her dad and moving her away from him it got lots better.
But dh still sees that he has no role in her life, and seems to resist reaching out to her at all to connect. He thinks that she doesn't respect him, and he won't interact with her till she does. SHE doesn't respect him, and won't till he's affectionate and she feels LIKED by him. It's a catch-22. And I think since he's the adult, it's his job to "do it her way" first...
I think she'll be fine despite having little or no connection with him...it's hard on me, and I truly think she has something to teach him.
Anyone have any advice for me?
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