My SD5 drives me insane. I feel bad, I get along well with most kids, and she and I used to have no troubles until the past 4-5 months. They are here only EOWE and holidays but by the second day I find it very hard to be around her.
I know that she is only 5, but she seems to do the things that drive me the most crazy: singing at the table (along with general poor table manners, after being asked not to several times), running in the house (we live in close quarters, it is a safety issue here, again and has to be asked many, many, times to not do this), jumping/walking on the couch, and most importantly...lying. Maybe the lying has just made it so that I can tolerate the other behaviors. She will make messes in the bedroom (that's not a problem) and tell me that DD6 did it, call someone a name and then deny it, etc. This has happened a few times.
I know that I sound like a tyrant and the core of the issue is not the actual action, but the lack of listenening. The other children are SD7, DD6 and DS3.5 who all seem to listen and follow the guidelines for the house. Now, the bios have the advantage of living here everyday.
I guess I'm looking for tips on how to get thru to her -- maybe my approaches that work with the other kids just don't work with her??
Any suggestions would be appreciated.